Why Don’t I Feel Loved? | Sonja Lyubomirsky

What if the problem isn’t whether people love you, but whether you actually feel it? In this episode full of feels, Sonja Lyubomirsky joins us to explore a powerful idea: you can be surrounded by love and still feel disconnected. Often, there’s a hidden gap between what we perceive and what’s actually happening. What we feel might not always be accurate, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to feel it. In our conversation, based on her latest book How to Feel Loved, Sonja explains why that gap exists and what we can do to close it.

We talk about the psychology of feeling loved, bust a few myths about love languages, and explore what curiosity, vulnerability, and conversation can do for your love life. Sonja walks us through five key mindsets that shift how we relate to others and help plant the seeds for stronger relationships. This is not a how-to guide, but an invitation to shift your perspective on how you both give and receive love.

We also challenge some long-held beliefs about what you need to do to be loved and unpack why “if only” thinking holds us back from reaching our full potential. If you want to build meaningful connections, it starts with curiosity. If you are curious about love, or feeling unseen, misunderstood, or emotionally distant, we invite you to listen in and open your heart to new possibilities.

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