Why We Gather: The Psychology of Holiday Rituals

The holiday season brings families together, but why do gatherings and rituals matter so much to our holiday happiness? In this pre-Christmas special, we explore the behavioral science behind the holiday season – everything from Thanksgiving dinner to baking cookies while watching your favorite holiday movie. Beneath the surface, these repeated actions do far more than mark a moment on the calendar: they shape our sense of identity and belonging, and strengthen our connections to family and friends.

Join us as we unwrap (ho ho ho…) how rituals differ from habits, why they reduce anxiety, and how shared experiences can help our emotions align with those of those closest to us. We dig into social identity theory, the role of intentionality, and why humans are wired to seek connection through shared experience, especially during times of uncertainty.

Are your holiday rituals feeling a bit hollow? We also chat about what happens when traditions slip into autopilot and what you can do to make those rituals feel meaningful again. With minor tweaks, reflection, and intention, you can evolve your family rituals without abandoning them, helping gatherings feel less stressful, more connected, and ultimately more enjoyable for you and yours. So, sit back with a cup of Irish Coffee (or of course, the tea of your choice), take a listen, and from our team to your family, have a happy holiday season.

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