No Regrets? Really? Why Regrets Actually Bring Us Hope | Daniel H. Pink

No regrets is a phrase thrown around like a badge of honor. Tattoos, songs and marketing taglines all boast this notion of curating a liberated life that you wouldn’t alter, change or modify in any way. But are we missing something? Best-selling author, Daniel H. Pink has done extensive research for his new book, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward, and believes that the feeling of regret isn’t just something that makes us human, it actually gives us hope.

I've discovered about myself, what I've discovered about others. Regret makes me human. Regret makes me better. Regret gives me hope. Share on X

Daniel Pink is the author of seven books, including the New York Times bestsellers When and A Whole New Mind — as well as the #1 New York Times bestsellers Drive and To Sell is Human. Dan’s books have won multiple awards, have been translated into 42 languages, and have sold millions of copies around the world.

Dan was also the host and co-executive producer of “Crowd Control,” a television series about human behavior on the National Geographic Channel that aired in more than 100 countries. Before venturing out on his own 20 years ago, Dan worked in politics and in government, including serving as chief speechwriter to Vice President Al Gore.

Topics

(3:56) Speed round questions

(7:48) How Dan started to lean into his own regrets.

(10:49) The complex emotion of regret.

(12:16) Will we regret switching our answers on a test?

(16:33) How Dan has compiled data on regret.

(18:55) How our regrets change as we age.

(22:11) Can we anticipate our regrets?

(26:29) How our unique moral code affects our regrets.

(29:40) The Four Core Regrets.

(33:47) What didn’t go in Dan’s book.

(39:45) The power of self compassion.

(41:35) Why regret gives us hope.

(46:40) What music would Dan never regret listening to?

(50:40) Grooving Session with Kurt and Tim recapping the Four Core Regrets and what we can learn from them.

One of my takeaways from this is the deep meaning of friendship in people's lives...to hear it in people's voices, how much drifting apart from friends hurt, and how much reconnecting with them meant, was really powerful to me. Share on X

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